What's he gonna do, drown you? No, he'll just talk alot. Ignore him and he'll get bored.

If he has the mentality of the 1st grader (which it sounds like he does) he probably likes you.

Woah what a jerk, just know this (even if his times are faster then yours) you're the better triathlete. Every time he makes some insult or slight he is just trying to justify in his own mind that he is indeed better then you, but he isn't! Anyone that results to saying stuff like that to anyone, let alone a team member, is very insecure and not to be taken seriously.

When I had someone telling me the same things, I couldn't cut it, I should just wash out, he would see me fail yet, I didn't let it get me down but every time he said stuff like that I made it my mission to prove him wrong. So everytime this jerk says something like that, just think woah I'm doing so well he's terrified of me or just use them as mental challenge that there is no way you'll let him be right.

Personally I'd say don't lower yourself to his level by doing this stuff no matter how gratifying it would defiantly be. It would most likely only result in it continuing or getting worse

that I very much agree with.

Wow....you guys are a lot more mature than I am. I'd just kick him in the balls and give him the finger. :D

What a loser this guy is ... What is he your ex or something. Lots of animosity there.
Ignoring is probably the best - though not easy to do - but he obviously needs an audience.
Have you spoken to any of the leaders in your tri-club. That is not the team environment that they want to foster. Maybe they can talk to him and if he doesn't let up boot him out of the club.

Wha?? You can get in an argument and NOT insult the other person's intelligence and so on? I thought that was the whole point of confrontations. ;)

Perfect solution! Let him catch you on swim then give him a couple swift kicks to the nads - he'll leave you alone after that.

Why not just call him out on it? "Why do you keep bugging and annoying me? Whats your deal buddy? We aren't friends, I'm not doing this to impress you, it's for me. Now go get a life!"

WWhat is the opinion of other members of your club - do they all tolerate this? If they do it reflects badly on the club as a whole. Talk to the executives of the club and see what they say - if nothing gets done turn him into a eunich.

If he gets near you on the swim and it's a wetsuit swim grab the leash on his zipper and pull it down.

Or, find a friend or someone you know that is faster than him and have them go up to the guy and say, "wow, you suck, maybe you should take up bowling".

I thought those kind of people only existed in movies. He sounds like a caricature.

I have a strong personal policy of only surrounding myself with people who provide a positive influence. I simply don't have any tolerance for negative personalities. This is not always possible, but you can choose where you work, who you hang out with, and what clubs you belong to. How important is the club to you? If you don't have any strong friends in the club, and if the club in general doesn't object to this individual's behaviour, than leave.

He probably posts over on Slowtwitch.

I am a bit more up-front and demanding of equal treatment of/for all. I would, very briefly and directly and in a calm voice, state that you don't appreciate the comments and that unless he has something worth while to say, he should not speak to you. Doing it in front of others is additionally helpful. From that point, ignoring him is the best approach until he makes another move.

If he comes at you with another low comment, you ignore it and, at the same time, draw recognition by others to his being an a$$.

Hopefully he will either stop it and keep to himself or fall off of the face of the earth.

That being said, I also like the food alergy approach. . . . :D

Best of luck

When/where is this upcoming sprint you mentioned?

I'd normally vote for the kicking too. However, it sounds from this guy's behavior that he's trying to compensate for something and so you'd probably be aiming at a pretty small target.

The next time he comes near...scream "No...Don't touch me! Help!
The Police and your lawyer should be able to get the message across.

I'm reminded of how Lloyd got back at Harry in Dumb and Dumber. How about a little (Actually a lot) of laxitive in his sports drink on race day! Then you could go up to him later and say something like, "Man you're really shi%$*y at this triathlon stuff!

Seriously, the guy has problems. Just ignore him. All he wants to get out of you is a reaction. If that doesn't work tell him that your dad can beat up his dad.

Nice!

Here's a few choices:

1. Next time he tells you that you suck, tell him his momma sucks.
2. Kick him in the balls!
3. Let the air out of his tires just before a group ride.
4. See if you can get in front of him on a group ride and then practice your "Peeing-on-the-bike", or do a bunch of snot rockets without warning.
5. Pee in his water bottle

He is attracted to you. It's the same immature/macho attitude that a 6th grade boy will display for the girl he likes, but is too afraid to admit it. Most guys will outgrow it and learn some actual social skills, but it is obvious that he wants attention from you and he only keeps it up because he knows it bothers you. I used to work with a guy named Eric who liked to be the center of attention, so I treated him like a 2 year old with ADD and said "Awwww does widdle ewic want some attention again? that's so cuuuute." That got under his skin. The one thing that any woman can do to embarass any man is to make fun of him in front of a group of women, especially if he is attracted to one of them. Hurting him physically won't be as bad as scarring his pride and masculinity. Let us know how it goes and good hunting.

Hehe I disagree :)

I had this problem with a teammate in lax this past year. The best thing I found to make this guy stop doing, like this guy is to you, is to ignore him when he is cutting you down, or others, and encourage him when he doing well.

It actually helps over a long period of time. There are people in this world who are simply jerks, and it seems best to tell them off and shove them into the dirt, like they do to you. But the reason they do it is they are usually not secure. The easy thing to do is too do what they're doing to you, but they'll just keep at it. You'll make yourself look better to others by actually being nice to him, regardless of how he is acting toward you, and cause people to question of why he is being a jerk. In the short run, yeah it'll feel good to go down to his level, but in the end, if you simply ignore him and uplift the guy when he does something well, people will see you in a better light and he might see that as well. I guess that is a kind of "cheesy" answer and seems a little weak, but honestly its harder to be nice to someone who is a complete jerk.

It seems to be a "cheesy" and "weak" answer.

BUT... Actually you are right. Kill him with kindness.

"You' By the livin' Gawd that made you,
You're a better man than I am, Gunga Din!" :D