She's in better shape than me
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Dkidd posted 3 years ago.
Have a talk with her an explain your concerns and make sure to leave a door open for her to brake off the "training" partnership.
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trainDaBrain posted 3 years ago.
It's ok to be a little anti-social when it comes to pacing and races. The race is about you socializing with your body. Think of it as an intense one-on-one where you are actively engaged in the conversation. All other input (others pacing, relative position) is ignored.
It's ok if she gets ahead, and if she wants to hang back with you, that's her decision. You're giving it a 100%, what else can anyone expect? If she gets angry about that, I'd recommend finding someone else to train with :)
Good luck!
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christri25 posted 3 years ago.
i agree train d brain... its all about me when i train. i use the faster people and drop the slower people.
Chris
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Tamara posted 3 years ago.
Be honest and open about each of your expectations for the day. I'm still training for my first tri, but have done 2 marathons. In the first, we agreed to stick together unless one of us absolutely decided to quit. As a result, I slowed down and walked the last few miles with my friend who was struggling. I have no regrets -- it could have been me having a rough day.
Last year, I ran my second marathon with a second friend. This time, we had decided that while we would try to stick together, at some point in the race it would be okay to split apart. And at mile 20 that's what we did. Our late-race strategies were different and she finished 2min ahead of me. Again - no regrets.
So maybe you do need a different training partner, but maybe you just need a bit more communication. Either way - don't be embarrassed and don't quit. Think of the millions out there who aren't even attempting what you are about to do! Good luck!
"It's very hard in the beginning to understand that the whole idea is not to beat the other runners. Eventually you learn that the competition is against the little voice inside you that wants you to quit." ~George Sheehan
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kylie posted 3 years ago.
I agree -- tell her your worries. When training for my Ironman, I had a great training partner, because he liked training at the pace I did and with me since I was consistent. However, come any race days, we knew that his race pace was faster and that was it. As long as she feels she can go faster if she wants, it should be fine.
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inlovewithcerve posted 3 years ago.
First of all, stop worrying. This will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sometimes we do not even know how fast we can go. And on everything else I agree with what the others mentioned.
Have fun!
PS: Tell us what the result was, please.
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ryan16 posted 3 years ago.
Pardon me if this offends anyone but I would love to train with a girl that was in better shape with me that is soooooo hottttttttt!!!!! sorry. I think you should just let her know that it would be ok for her to go off on her own sometimes. Good luck and she should be understanding of your skills since she is training with you.
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trimommy posted 3 years ago.
I train with two girls, one really fast,and then there is myself and the other friend. We train together, but come race day we are all on our own doing our own thing because we all are different. It is cool to pass them on the course or see them in transition for a split second. They keep me going. I agree with everyone else, tell her it is a good thing. oh, stop worrying, this is FUN! Have a blast enjoy the day and let us know how it goes.
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qb ant posted 3 years ago.
I've been training with a friend consistently for about 3 years now, and he is faster then I am in all three areas. On every race day I tell him to go on ahead and don't worry about me. Well, we always finish together. He says that throughout the year we train together and there are just as many days that I have to push his ass as he has to push mine so he's not really concerned about the extra couple of minutes he would gain. The key is to be honest and talk to your partner. For me having someone to train with, especially on those really rough days, is worth a lot.
Ant
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jmdesignz posted 3 years ago.
I lost my training buddy
we ran together for over 2 years
she started me running actually - I never considered running until she convinced me to train with her for a 15k
- did all our races together, I helped her train for her first tri. I always encouraged her and was always willing to run her pace and help her push herself.
then it started happening - she would drop hints about cutting me loose
to be continued..
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jmcglos posted 3 years ago.
I occasionally run with a fellow co-worker who runs sub 6 minute mile pace in races. I can't even touch that! But sometimes he still wants to run with me - and I always enjoy having someone to run with. So what we'll do is run together the first half of our run (I pick up the pace and he backs off some - a little compromise), then he takes off and does his own pace for the rest of the run. That way we at least have some companionship during part of the run, and he can still get a good training session done at his own pace for the last half of the run and I always get a good run out of it!
My advice is to go out and train with this person. If she expressed interest in training with you, she's obviously not having second thoughts, so don't worry! If, after the first session, you're still not comfortable trying to keep her pace, let her know. Training with someone better and faster than you can only make you improve that much more anyway. Maybe you'll surprise yourself and find out that you are actually faster and stronger than her! You'll never know unless you go for it!
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thehitman posted 3 years ago.
Just remember -
Its not about the bike.
thehitman
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mherkissa posted 3 years ago.
Hey everyone. Thanks for your input. It is nearing 10 p.m. here in Minnesota land. Yesterday we solidified our plans to workout tomorrow, and then today she called and asked to change the time...Like I said, it is nearing 10 p.m. here in Minnesota land and I have yet to hear back from her after I returned her phone call.
I hope everything is okay with her (no family trauma), but it isn't looking like it is going to happen after all. That's okay, maybe we'll try again.
I scrapped eating at lunch twice this week, and ran around the lake in the back of our building instead. WHOO-HOO! It feels great.
If it was fun AND easy, everyone would do it!
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thehitman posted 3 years ago.
Maybe she doesn't want to get all hot and sweaty with you; at least not on the bike.
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8701nicole posted 3 years ago.
You don't need to put any added stress on your body or mind. Just go w/ "your flow", not your partners. It is always good to train w/ someone who is going to push you. But someone who is going to stress you out isn't.
Hope everything goes well :D ,
Nicole
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I am doing my brick workout with the woman that I posted about earlier. As the day approaches, I am growing more nervous because her endurance is far beyond me. While we are in the water, I "lap" her, but biking and running, forget it.
My concern is that I am going to be a dead weight around her neck (slow her down) and that she is going to be upset. She is aware that I don't train as intensly as her, but I am still worried.
Any advice? I am not going to cancel cuz I realize that I am probably more nervous than the situation really calls for. I guess I am a little embarressed at the level that I am NOT at. Any thoughts to help me "get over it" would be appreciated.
Thanks
If it was fun AND easy, everyone would do it!