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Ok, now that I got your attention, I have a question for all you "experienced" triathletes out there. I recently started training for a HIM and the training has been ramping up for me. I noticed that after a hard (no pun intended) workout, especially a run, I have problems getting an erection. Or a flaccid one at best.

I've never had this problem before I started training for tris. This is my first year. I don't have ED, am a young male and not obese. I've kept in shape in the past by being very active in various non-endurance sports.

Thanks for your candid answers. This should be an interesting one :)

How long after till you can get it up dude? Obviously your blood is in other "soft" tissues, thats why your dong is not filling up. Also how long have you had this problem? It could just be your body adjusting to the increase in training.

THIS is your first post on trifuel?

Welcome to trifuel.
However, I smell a rat.
Let's get to know you a bit before we start swapping stories about getting a hard-on.
Not that it wouldn't be fun.

PoC

Is it all training or just biking? Bike seats can put pressure on the nerves inervating the male genitlia and certainly impact function. Blood flow can also be impacted. Would consider seeing your doctor.

[quote=PrinceofClydes]THIS is your first post on trifuel?

Welcome to trifuel.
However, I smell a rat.
Let's get to know you a bit before we start swapping stories about getting a hard-on.
Not that it wouldn't be fun.

PoC[/quote]
+1

Hmmm...Looks like I won't be getting any answers without an initiation first :)

I am an endurance MTB racer. Done leadville last year and the creampuff the year before. And several other MTB/road races here and there. I got into triathlons after talking to a local tri coach. Plus I was bored and wanted a new challenge. He convinced me to try triathlons since I already have a good base with all my MTB and road experience. He even offered to coach me for free so it was a no brainer to convert to tris. I'll be doing the Boulder 70.3 as my first tri.

How did I come across trifuel? Well asking one of your training buddies if he has a problem getting a hard-on after a long run is awkward. I don't know any of them close enough to ask such things. Plus I couldn't use the local tri forum because everyone knows my fiance and I. And she rather not have everyone know of our little (no pun intended, again) problem. So I searched the internet and came across this site.

Anyways, I have never had problems after a bike. Its just the run. The longest I've run before starting tris was 15 miles. But my HIM training has lots of speed work and hard runs. After some runs, my legs feel like jello and I just can't get it up for the rest of the day. The desire is there, but its just not listening.

Get that problem seen to, my friend :)
This would definitely put a damper on being a supportive triathlon wife

I am betting its just the intensity of the training. The Marines did the same thing to me in bootcamp. It took about 8-10 weeks before I/he was functional again. We used to joke about it that the government was giving us a shot to kill any desire. I am no doctor but it seems to me that the blood just can't get there as the body needs the blood pumped to your legs to recover.

Welcome to Tri-Fuel!

Did I just walk into a "little blue pill'' ad. If you you're serious (big if) 1)Don't get advice on an internet forum. Dear god man. 2) See a doctor.

If you're not being serious........be more creative. That's too predictable and a worn path.

OK...it appears you're legit. ;) We see some real strange first posts around here...

Why, it appears you ARE suffering from ED...Endurance Deflation!
If this is the first time in your life that you've really started to push running endurance...your going to notice some changes! The blood pumping through your body has better things to do than help "Mr. Happy"
stand too. The body will adjust and things will improve as you're running stamina improves. If it continues though,even after short runs, I'm with jtrimom ...see a doctor.
Oh, Welcome to Trifuel and you get the award for most eye catching first post!

How is it during a taper ;)

Welcome to trifuel, love that this is your first post AND that you are legit! Good luck "getting on top" of your problem!

There's very likely nothing wrong with you as Anton says.
Pardon my initial skepticism.
Fatigue does funny things to us and perhaps it is unreasonable to expect to be able to ride 50 miles, then run 15 more miles and still perform like Peter North.
I'd like to see him get it on after a Half Ironman!

At IMC, when I'm changing at T2 for the run, I could swear the poor thing will never work again. 112 miles on that hard bike saddle, squished by spandex, pounded by road vibration (I ride aluminum), it's no wonder Mr. Happy isn't so happy.

But nature has a way of bouncing back. Don't worry. :)

as for therapy, I think the best therapy is the same as for a groin strain,
that's a quart of cheap vanilla ice cream applied by an 18 year old cheerleader.

or perhaps, ibuprofen, scotch on the rocks (pun intended) and half an hour in the hot tub.

Thanks for an interesting query.

PoC

[quote=jtrimom]Get that problem seen to, my friend :)
This would definitely put a damper on being a supportive triathlon wife[/quote]

While I am sure the guys here are giving you good advice about blood flow and all that, I am with jtrimom. Go see a doc. ED is nothing to screw around with (pun fully intended!)

Welcome to trifuel! Good luck getting your highly localized recurring bonk issue resolved.

If you can't have an erection only after running, and you can at other times, then try sleeping, not having sex, sleeping after your run, and your honey can wake you up any way she likes after an hour. I mean whats the rush. You are already tuckered out. It works in reverse too, if you have sex you will run really badly. It's why top athletes forego, before competion. It makes the legs weak.
there are plenty of sex coaches around, and pills and doctors, that you could go to, but if it's only after the run, I would just say vary the timing , and what you do to get aroused.

[quote=PrinceofClydes]There's very likely nothing wrong with you as Anton says.
Pardon my initial skepticism.
Fatigue does funny things to us and perhaps it is unreasonable to expect to be able to ride 50 miles, then run 15 more miles and still perform like Peter North.
I'd like to see him get it on after a Half Ironman!

At IMC, when I'm changing at T2 for the run, I could swear the poor thing will never work again. 112 miles on that hard bike saddle, squished by spandex, pounded by road vibration (I ride aluminum), it's no wonder Mr. Happy isn't so happy.

But nature has a way of bouncing back. Don't worry. :)

as for therapy, I think the best therapy is the same as for a groin strain,
that's a quart of cheap vanilla ice cream applied by an 18 year old cheerleader.

or perhaps, ibuprofen, scotch on the rocks (pun intended) and half an hour in the hot tub.

Thanks for an interesting query.

PoC[/quote]

+1

Just did a half and got a rash on the end of my pee pee during the bike, the first part of the run sucked very badly. It still hurts sometimes when I'm walking and it gets rubbed a little. As far as bed time activities, however, still works!

Oh and the worst part is during cold races when your lower half gets numb and it feels like nothing is even there. Gets kind of scary, but just keep telling yourself it will come back!

that's not right at all. what sort of workouts are you doing? how often does this happen? I've been training for a long time and have done some tough runs but my biggest problem has been staying awake

[quote=Warrior]..
It works in reverse too, if you have sex you will run really badly. It's why top athletes forego, before competion. It makes the legs weak..

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LoL. Good one, warrior..

You're kidding, right? Please tell me you're kidding.
Edwin Moses won 105 consecutive 400m hurdles races in a row and revealed in an interview that on one occasion he had intercourse only 40 minutes before winning a Gold Medal.

Some people are so wound up before a competition (not Edwin) that I would reccommend that they get together with their honey to help them relax!

Reggie Jackson responded to a reporter who asked him if he thought having sex the night prior to a game affected his athletic ability. He said, "That's just stupid. We play 200 games a year. You think a man isn't going to sleep with his wife the night before games?"

I have no crystal ball, but I know human nature. I bet we could survey Triathlon winners to discover that more than half of them had sex during the 24 hours previously. It might even become part of the pre-race strategy. Wait.. don't we have good Trifuel advice about the best way to taper? I'm sure we do! heh.

Jump in here any time, Sharon.

PoC
PoC

you beat me to it PoC.....warrior, no offense, but that's a load of poo.
There is plenty of proof, some of which I have linked to Trifuel, and plenty of athlete experience on Trifuel supporting my "Taper Naked" slogan.
I don't think it weakens the legs, but I do think having sex the night before or hours before a race relieves some pent up tension and certainly makes ME race better.

Are you wearing compression shorts for the run? If so, how tight are they? ;-)

Thanks for all the comments. My fiance did discuss going to the doctor but with work and training, I have had the hardest time scheduling a doctor visit. We are both not too worried about ED since it only happens after my long training runs. Any other time, it works great. The only thing that sucks is that my long training days are on weekends and the weekends are the only time we can both have longer "training" days. I don't wear compression shorts; its either a tri bottom or a running short.

As for sex before races, I have tried both and I found that intimacy before a race helps. And it helps if your partner promises a celebration after too. But with my problem the celebration after will have to be postponed for tris. I think I'll try to get some sleep immediately after those long runs and see what happens.

Stick with the training, because once you are married the sex will soon stop.

It's not complete poo........
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/3555734.stm.

I agree with the arguments put forward as to why it might be, but I can always remember boxers training away from their families and sex being banned before a bout, but I see the arguments on the other side too......

apparently you gals and ed moses work a little different to German national footballers :-)

Well until I start getting paid ALOT to do something athletic, I am not worrying about it.
I will have sex whenever the opportunity presents itself, before a race, after a race,
and if I could during a race! ;-)

[quote=robmathews66] Stick with the training, because once you are married the sex will soon stop.[/quote]

I beg to differ

[quote=jtrimom][quote=robmathews66] Stick with the training, because once you are married the sex will soon stop.[/quote]

I beg to differ
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'Taper Naked' ! ;-)

My wife and I had a rare night in a hotel room with just the two of us before my IM. My legs were strong the next day and my body was relaxed. I really would like to try for the quadrathlon one time after completing a 140.6. Now that would be a challenge ;-)

I have my own theory on this. I feel that people who train for a tri are somewhat Type-A to begin with so they're motivated to perform as well as possible in their next race. They/we're not just working out casually at the gym for half an hour without a clear goal other than general health. So I believe that on top of our professional and other pressures, triathlon adds on to our set of things we worry about.

Before my first race, I was a nervous wreck. I don't know why I was. nobody I knew was going to be watching me. My professional status, my social standing was not going to be really affected by how I did. But I was psychologically invested nevertheless. And I think that's what can cause you to detract from being into sex. Tris can be a stressor and how big of an effect they cause is unpredictable. It's a paradox. We relax and find meditative peace through it but it stresses us out at the same time.

I found my libido increase after a race... In fact, we conceived our first child the week after completing my first half ironman. So go figure. Maybe you're just worrying more about your training and equipment and nutrition and racing so much you're not thinking enough about other things...

[quote=beads1985][quote=jtrimom][quote=robmathews66] Stick with the training, because once you are married the sex will soon stop.[/quote]

I beg to differ
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'Taper Naked' ! ;-)
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+10! Fellas, if your wife is not interested in sex, have a conversation. Now. Do not wait. Get to bottom of that problem immediately.

[quote=TonisTri][quote=beads1985][quote=jtrimom][quote=robmathews66] Stick with the training, because once you are married the sex will soon stop.[/quote]

I beg to differ
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'Taper Naked' ! ;-)
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+10! Fellas, if your wife is not interested in sex, have a conversation. Now. Do not wait. Get to bottom of that problem immediately.
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Exercise does boost the libido. ;-)

Joke

Okay so there is a new race being organised, so far there is only one participant I am afraid, when I talk the wife into it, there will be two. I am going to call the race, the Iron Hard Man.
It will be a triathlon, sex in the pool sex on a bike and sex on the run. I haven't quite figured out the distances yet, but to reference an earlier thread swallowing is definitely recommended. , bib numbers are not necessary and participants are expected to finish with the partners they started with.
Any with any ideas as to endurance, format, time of year please chime in.
I am just thinking of all those poor boxers who went without sex for 3 months before a fight only to lose. They must be really bummed to find out it was a complete waste of time.

I'm having sex while I'm typing this very moment. Say hi honey.

P.S. (Not really)

:)

[quote=Amphibious Triton]I'm having sex while I'm typing this very moment. Say hi honey.

P.S. (Not really)

:)[/quote]

Typing one handed? ;-)

[quote=Warrior]Okay so there is a new race being organised, so far there is only one participant I am afraid, when I talk the wife into it, there will be two. I am going to call the race, the Iron Hard Man.
It will be a triathlon, sex in the pool sex on a bike and sex on the run. I haven't quite figured out the distances yet, but to reference an earlier thread swallowing is definitely recommended. , bib numbers are not necessary and participants are expected to finish with the partners they started with.
Any with any ideas as to endurance, format, time of year please chime in.
I am just thinking of all those poor boxers who went without sex for 3 months before a fight only to lose. They must be really bummed to find out it was a complete waste of time.[/quote]

why make it so complicated? I say, just swim, bike, run, then have sex. although th OP might have issues with that format...brick training will take on new meaning

+1 jtrimom... My wife and I have been married for 17 years, together for 18. I have just about the same amount of sex that I do training sessions. Would be more if not for those darn pesky kids wanting to sleep in the room with us!

[quote=beads1985][quote=Amphibious Triton]I'm having sex while I'm typing this very moment. Say hi honey.

P.S. (Not really)

:)[/quote]

Typing one handed? ;-)
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Ha. I love it. I told you my wife's name is Rosie Palms, right? :)

[quote=Warrior]Okay so there is a new race being organised, so far there is only one participant I am afraid, when I talk the wife into it, there will be two. I am going to call the race, the Iron Hard Man.
It will be a triathlon, sex in the pool sex on a bike and sex on the run. I haven't quite figured out the distances yet, but to reference an earlier thread swallowing is definitely recommended. , bib numbers are not necessary and participants are expected to finish with the partners they started with.
Any with any ideas as to endurance, format, time of year please chime in.
I am just thinking of all those poor boxers who went without sex for 3 months before a fight only to lose. They must be really bummed to find out it was a complete waste of time.[/quote]
Sex during all three events? Oh hell, I could do THAT! Better "racing" through chemistry! ;)

[quote=Warrior]Okay so there is a new race being organised, so far there is only one participant I am afraid, when I talk the wife into it, there will be two. I am going to call the race, the Iron Hard Man.
It will be a triathlon, sex in the pool sex on a bike and sex on the run. I haven't quite figured out the distances yet, but to reference an earlier thread swallowing is definitely recommended. , bib numbers are not necessary and participants are expected to finish with the partners they started with.
Any with any ideas as to endurance, format, time of year please chime in.
I am just thinking of all those poor boxers who went without sex for 3 months before a fight only to lose. They must be really bummed to find out it was a complete waste of time.[/quote]

The person with the slowest time wins. ;)

Not sure time would be an element.......could be more 'performanced' based.

[quote=jarhead]+1 jtrimom... My wife and I have been married for 17 years, together for 18. I have just about the same amount of sex that I do training sessions. Would be more if not for those darn pesky kids wanting to sleep in the room with us![/quote]
I hear ya. lil' cblockers!

[quote=Warrior]Not sure time would be an element.......could be more 'performanced' based.[/quote]

Now, you know how I dislike "judged" events. Lousy Russian judges.

I want a scoreboard and, and.. a clock!

No judges. The ex was bad enough, thank you.

PoC

[quote=PrinceofClydes][quote=Warrior]Not sure time would be an element.......could be more 'performanced' based.[/quote]

Now, you know how I dislike "judged" events. Lousy Russian judges.

I want a scoreboard and, and.. a clock!

No judges. The ex was bad enough, thank you.

PoC[/quote]
+1! I spent years married to a woman who thought emasculation was a family value. No Judges! Video for the judges to view later might be ok...

[quote=PrinceofClydes][quote=Warrior]Not sure time would be an element.......could be more 'performanced' based.[/quote]

Now, you know how I dislike "judged" events. Lousy Russian judges.

I want a scoreboard and, and.. a clock!

No judges. The ex was bad enough, thank you.

PoC[/quote]

A clock? But my husband has been telling me all these years that 6 1/2 minutes is totally normal. Hey honey....c'mere a minute!!!

The sleep I get after sex is far and away the most restful and probably the most beneficial for recovery.That said,marriage made spontaneous and fulfulling sex pretty much disappear;which is too bad considering I have a great endorphin buzz going after exercise and would welcome the 'cross training'.

[quote=stevepro65]The sleep I get after sex is far and away the most restful and probably the most beneficial for recovery.That said,marriage made spontaneous and fulfulling sex pretty much disappear;which is too bad considering I have a great endorphin buzz going after exercise and would welcome the 'cross training'.[/quote]

Do you have kids? Nothing says "spontaneous" like "hey honey, the kids just went downstairs to play the X-box!" you have to be ready to go at any time if you want to get you some...

Hubby and I are in our 18th year together and let's just say proving that marriage doesn't have to kill anything!

I am getting to know people here in ways I never imagined..........wait, I did imagine, I just didn't think possible :-)

[quote=TonisTri]
A clock? But my husband has been telling me all these years that 6 1/2 minutes is totally normal. Hey honey....c'mere a minute!!!
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Ha. Funny stuff. Not fair though since he's not here to defend himself. In his absence, I will be his proxy. "Baby, your so beautiful I just can't help myself." (I'm thinking Barry White type voice) :)

Tell your husband, No charge.

[quote=Amphibious Triton][quote=TonisTri]
A clock? But my husband has been telling me all these years that 6 1/2 minutes is totally normal. Hey honey....c'mere a minute!!!
[/quote]

Ha. Funny stuff. Not fair though since he's not here to defend himself. In his absence, I will be his proxy. "Baby, your so beautiful I just can't help myself." (I'm thinking Barry White type voice) :)

Tell your husband, No charge.[/quote]

You know, as far as I'm concerned, if both parties are completely satisfied, it really doesn't matter what the clock says....and to tell the truth, if I'm done, I'd rather him get done so I can go to sleep than go on and on just because he can....just sayin'

[quote=jtrimom]
You know, as far as I'm concerned, if both parties are completely satisfied, it really doesn't matter what the clock says....and to tell the truth, if I'm done, I'd rather him get done so I can go to sleep than go on and on just because he can....just sayin'
[/quote]

You're not a cuddler, eh? You gals ain't doing much to convince the single guys to enter into a monotonous.......er....I mean a monogamous relationship.

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