For all those Triathlete widows out there!
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Tribro posted 12 weeks ago.
ha :) who is he? we'll set him straight. seriously tho. it can be tough on significant others for sure, especially those whose significant other are doing Ironmans or super involved and spend tons of time in the training and are then too tired and need to rest outside of training :) We certainly appreciate those that support and we do need make sure we plan time with family and friends. maybe we need a trifuel widows support group or a good way to share how others are juggling and balancing it all successful.
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iamtb13 posted 12 weeks ago.
Everyone - meet my significant other - Triwidow.
Triwidow - this is everyone. :)
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Tribro posted 12 weeks ago.
oh no dude, caught already and you've only been on here 10 days ;) Wait til you hit the 3,4,5 year marks... But you do have 22 posts already in just 10 days so at that pace I guess she does have some real concerns :D
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NotAsFast posted 12 weeks ago.
TriWidow, welcome. Getting perspective from the other side of the equation sometimes is not what we want to hear, but the pain to endure when you ignore is not worth the ignorance.
TriBro, how about a TriWidow forum in the General Topics. I am sure we all have a great TriWidow, (or TriHusband) story we all want to share.
A friend and fellow traiing partner had his bike backed over by his wife one day (P3k) and we still to this day wonder...... did she really see it or was it jealousy that came a visitin......
Another mystery of life still left to solve.
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triwidow posted 12 weeks ago.
LOL....Oh yea, he's very active, in every sense of the word! He can't (and won't) even deny it.
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triwidow posted 12 weeks ago.
NotAsFast,
I think that is a great idea! We all may be able to see the others point of view and even get a few laughs out of the group.....from both perspectives! I agree that it's not always what you want to hear, but it might be helpful to see that there's not just one crazy triathlete or just one irritated tri-widow (or hubby) out there that just doesn't seem to understand the frame of mind of a triathlete.
As you said, I'm sure that there are other stories out there that would be fun/interesting to share!
Thanks!!
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cjhoffmn posted 12 weeks ago.
Sounds like a great idea. Just don't tell my wife.
Was that my outloud voice?... Ummm
Seriously - great idea.
To tri or not to tri - that's not a question at all!
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kylie posted 12 weeks ago.
triwidow wrote:
(In the end I really do respect that you guys/girls can do these races....I can't do it and I do know it takes a lot of training and drive to want it. BEST to ALL!! And good luck in this years tri's!)
Welcome TriWidow! I'm lucky -- well at least I think so. My fiance and I both do tris. In fact, we met at one (and will be doing that same one again this weekend).
Only one problem... I bet you *could* do it. I keep trying to convince people around me to just do one, and then I'll leave 'em alone. Like my mom always said, you have to at least try it, and then you can not like it :)
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wallflower posted 12 weeks ago.
Welcome Triwidow.....I love the post!
My husband is triwidower and would certainly have plenty of "other perspective" to offer. However, he is my biggest fan and takes care of everything for me, from my bike to my meals, to sag wagon. He is awesome. That being said he is also the first to DEMAND a date night even if it is just quiet time in front of the TV. Anything to get me to sit still for an hour. As much as we love our training, races and trifuel, we need our triwidow(er)s to keep us grounded and in tune with the rest of the world.
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UFTriGator posted 12 weeks ago.
I overheard my girlfriend giving advice to a friend who is new triwidow on how to cope a couple days ago. I think I was looking at bikes online.
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Great Greyhound posted 12 weeks ago.
TriWidow....
My wife was a tri-widow, until she caught the bug....
She was named Athena of the Year for the HFPRacing circuit in 2006!
Our idea of a Date Night is Taco Bell after a mid-week ride, or chicken at the local watering hole after a long workout on the weekend..
Come over to the Dark Side, join us!
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TriSooner posted 12 weeks ago.
triwidow wrote:
Seriously? He's taking it way to seriously. (And now we know who it is.) Is he sponsored? Does the mortgage payment depend on race payouts and keeping sponsors happy? Didn't think so.
He's way too hard on himself when he doesn't get the times and placement that he's going for and normally it's a good day of drama that follows. WHAT TO DO!? I just sit back and listen and shut up, since there is nothing at all that I can say to make him feel better about it. If necessary, I tell him to call his coach so he can talk him down from the rooftop/ledge lol.
Tell him to read the article linked from the "Mike Ricci interviews Scott Molina" post. Scott's advice is right-on: "Scott summed up this approach when he mentioned process-focused athletes, vs. results-focused athletes. Basically, enjoy your training and the results will take care of themselves. In other words, if you are so focused on the end result, you won’t have as much fun in training and the chances of you reaching your time goals diminish greatly."
As a single guy it takes time to "train" a new girlfriend NOT to expect too much on the weekends. We don't go out for late night drinks. I'm in bed by 10 on Saturday night; out the door by 6am on Sunday. So we see each other about 12 hours a week. Meh. I had triathlon before I had her.
So 325 hours a year of training and a 13hr finish gets you into the 16th percentile at Ironman Germany? Dude, wait, what?
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stewarba posted 12 weeks ago.
I'm not sure if I consider my wife a triwidow or myself an American Idol widower. I started working out in January 2005 which is when she started watching AI. I refused to continue to sit on my fat ass and watch TV. She thought it was great, but she didn't anticpate the fact that the Tri season lasts alot longer than AI. ;-)
We have a little bit of "Chicken and Egg" discussions on which triggered the other.
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2008 Sprint Tri A race goals
S: 500m in 10:00 – FS Stroke only
B: 22mph avg over course
R: 5K <= 25:00
Place top 50% for my age group
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PJT posted 12 weeks ago.
Welcome.
I actually started out as a tri widower. My wife signed up for her first Olympic tri in 2004. About 4 weeks into her training, I picked up a used road bike and some running shoes and started tagging along for the heck of it. 6 weeks later I was doing a sprint tri with her. Then another one. I watched her do the Oly at the end of the summer and realized I really wanted to be out there too. The next summer, we did 5 races, including 2 Olys and a half-iron, and I became a full-blown addict.
It could happen to you...
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azstinger11 posted 12 weeks ago.
UFTriGator wrote:
I overheard my girlfriend giving advice to a friend who is new triwidow on how to cope a couple days ago. I think I was looking at bikes online.
So was that you I saw with the laptop after collegiate nationals? lol j/j
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Ironmom posted 12 weeks ago.
My hubby has done one triathlon, but it's not his thing (which might've been helped by the fact that the swim course in that race was accidentally mis-measured at almost twice the distance, and swimming's his worst sport!). Fortunately, he likes to bike long distances and has run marathons and stuff. I don't think he considers himself a "tri widow", except maybe for the last month or two before Ironman, LOL. Over the years we've been together, we've both done lots of active things, from skydiving to snowboarding to scuba or motorcycles or triathlons or whatever - sometimes together and sometimes separate. Neither one of us is a "widow" to the other - we come and support if we both aren't out doing it together!
This year I'm taking no tri season at all after June and we're concentrating on bike touring on our tandems with the kids. It can't always be about racing.
Blue Skies, -Robin-
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catwood posted 11 weeks ago.
Well, my ex was a tri widow (or was I a gaming widow)... We ditched each other after a year and I replaced him with a new man: my Orbea Ora, Beast. I'm sick of boys. I don't care if they don't do tri's but they have to exercise regularly and not view it as a chore. If they do happen to do tri's, they should either be faster than me or not complain and be an annoying baby about it - once a guy was pursuing me, but then stopped when I beat him (I thought that he was going to be fast by the way he talked about himself). Sore loser...
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jerallen posted 11 weeks ago.
Why don't we call the forum triwidows anonymous, and have the 12 steps to go along with it. I have been told by my wife a few times that i spend more time on my bike then i do with/on her, HA!
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Nobody posted 11 weeks ago.
I do tris and so does my gf and we never see each other. She trains with a group, I train alone. I guess that's why we're always on the verge of breaking up....oh well, at least if we do part I still have a life to live.
Greatness is only achieved by those who perpetually raise the expectations of themselves to the point where it ruins their life.
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odenwesd posted 11 weeks ago.
I was a triwidow too until I choose to cross over to the darkside. The addiction is overwhelming.
Although, one thing my fiance and I have found helpful is for him to schedule a least a couple workouts for the morning (before work) so that we have some evening time together (I'm in school, so I work-out during the day..) It's really helped out a lot. We also do some things together like our bike trainer rides (I bet we look ridiculous to neighbors) or go for an "easy" run (easy for him anyways..) It's important for both people to "schedule free time" together though.
Good luck. Triathletes are crazy.
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iamtb13 posted 11 weeks ago.
Just to set the record straight -
triwidow is EXTREMELY supportive of my traithlon addiction. Just this weekend she told me to get my lazy ass out of bed and get my swim in because we had things to do later. (I think she just wanted all the covers but I can't prove that.)
triwidow is anything but a couch potato. She works out regularly at the gym and also does tae bo constantly. She can snap a side kick over my head (I'm 6'4") which is both impressive and scary at the same time.
She's as supportive as one can be who hasn't yet joined the triathlon cult. Although she admitted this weekend, she'd like to run a 5K - It's only a matter of time....
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azstinger11 posted 11 weeks ago.
Yeah I left behind a tri widow things just weren't working out. Her idea of exercise of actually making the margaritas herself. That and she hated sweaty people and after a long bike ride here in AZ well yeah your drenched even on the slow days. She pretty much said its me or Tris/Exercise ...... i still do tris.
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stewarba posted 11 weeks ago.
iamtb13 wrote:
She can snap a side kick over my head (I'm 6'4") which is both impressive and scary at the same time.
Your a lucky man!! ;-)
Goals in writing are dreams with deadlines – Brian Tracy
2008 Sprint Tri A race goals
S: 500m in 10:00 – FS Stroke only
B: 22mph avg over course
R: 5K <= 25:00
Place top 50% for my age group
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triwidow posted 11 weeks ago.
Yea....I'll be doing that 5K before long!! ;o)
THANK YOU all for the posts and the positive thoughts on keeping my options open to being able to do a race some day. Ya never know!
I think this board is great and I love reading the posts in all of the different areas. If nothing else, I get to at least learn alot and speak intelligently about racing AND I get to see that there are many others that are as intense as my bf, iamtb13.
And please throw out some good weather thoughts towards New Jersey for this weekend....his 2nd race of the season and it is supposed to be another rainy one. Last one in Lake Anna was crazy wet and cold!
Hello all!
I know this forum is for those that do triathlons but I think there should be a thread for all of us significant others out here that choose (for some unknown reason) to be with these fanatic men and women that spend more time on trifuel and training then they do any pretty much anything else! ;o)
I would obviously be one of those people. My BF is completely addicted to doing triathlons and all the training that goes with them. He's way too hard on himself when he doesn't get the times and placement that he's going for and normally it's a good day of drama that follows. WHAT TO DO!? I just sit back and listen and shut up, since there is nothing at all that I can say to make him feel better about it. If necessary, I tell him to call his coach so he can talk him down from the rooftop/ledge lol.
Anyone else in the same boat? Or any triathlete's that want to urge your poor significant other to join this site to see that there are other widows out there that have to deal with you crazy triathletes?
(In the end I really do respect that you guys/girls can do these races....I can't do it and I do know it takes a lot of training and drive to want it. BEST to ALL!! And good luck in this years tri's!)